Hello,šš½
How are you doing? I hope life has been treating you well. I am happy to write to you today. Writing to you makes me focus on something different from my normal day-to-day activities. Here, I can process my thoughts and the happenings around me.
Well, I am fine today. I remember I said in my last letter that I was tired as at the time I was writing to you. During the week, I got tired++
All thanks to God, I am feeling much better than yesterday and even compared to the last time I wrote to you.
You will need to indulge me on this one: I have a desire that this year I write to you every week. Sometimes, I get worried if I would be able to meet up with it. But I guess I will never know if I donāt keep trying to meet up with it.
Today, I want to have a heart-to-heart with you on a topic God has placed on my heart. I believe you will learn something from it.
Most times, we can be so quick to ignore the importance of people in our lives. We allow the cares of the world take away important relationships from us. Your busy schedule comprising of work and your desire to always be on top of your game. Your endless pursuit for money, fame, relevance, the big wins, and opportunities. It is like a continuous cycle everyday that never ends. Donāt get me wrong, this is not bad but if you do this at the expense of good relationships, then a fact remains that you are cheating yourself out of life.
You and I need support systems at every point in our lives. Your support systems are people that you call your āride or dieā, your cheerleaders, the ones who will be with you through thick and thin. The ones who are ready to support you. The Jonathan kind of friends. People who want to see you grow. Persons that can move mountains for you.
You need to ask yourself these questions: do you have persons that are solidly rooting for you? Do you have persons who you can call at 1:00am concerning a problem you are facing and they can stay on the call for hours just to encourage you? Do you have persons who can carry your burdens? Do you have persons that in their little they still give to you? Do you have persons who you can pray with and can even pray over you? Do you have people in your corner that are ready to stand up for you no matter what the situation is like? Do you have persons that can cry with you? Do you have persons that can laugh with you and even make you laugh till your stomach hurts? Do you have people that sincerely just want the best for you?
It is so important that you give honest answers to these questions. Why? You are not meant to do life alone. Nobody at all deserves to carry the burdens of life alone. God made this clear to us when he intentionally made Eve for Adam because āit is not good for man to be aloneā.
On Saturday, I was weighed down with the pressure of school work, trying to get my life together with many āto-doās.ā At a point, I just bust into tears because it was a lot.Ā Hot tears ran down my cheeks. However, I did not cry alone. I had a friend who was ready to listen to my rants. My heart was heavy and she stayed to encourage me till I was better. A word that she gave to me was what made me start to see things in a different light.
How many times have you needed such words of encouragement?
After this incidence, God dropped in my heart to share with you today why it is important to have people hold your hands on this journey of life. Life does get a bit rocky at times. Most times, you donāt plan for such situations. You canāt also be strong all the time for them. There are times you will feel like giving up and it is normal. In these times, there are people who can hold your hand so you can continue from where you stopped.
It is dangerous to live like na only you waka come. You are not an island. Donāt be too focusedĀ on yourself alone that you ignore the beautiful flowers God has surrounded your life with to make it a well-watered garden. Donāt be that person who makes it difficult for people to sustain beautiful relationships with. Learn to water your relationships. Ensure you always do the work of building your relationships.
You want a good support system? Build it. Be intentional about loving people. Be ready to forgive. Honour people and strive to be better than you were yesterday. At the core of a good support system is vulnerability. Your defences should not be on the rise when you are among people you trust and who have earned your trust.
In the same vein, your support systems are people you trust. Persons that are not judgemental of you. Hence, you have to be selective of who you let in your corner. You can have many acquaintances but know the persons that you can boldly say you gather dey.
Nobody is perfect. You and I are just imperfect people working on our imperfections.
Also, be a support system to people as you seek support systems in others. I pray that you find such people in your life and you keep them close.
This is the message on my heart to you.
I wish you a great week.āØ
All my love + everything nice.š
The Purple Girl.
Thank you so much.š
Thank you so much.š